Wednesday, September 2, 2009


Do you ever wonder why people give their unsolicited negative opinions? I decided to travel home to Chester (suburb of Philly) to spend time with my family. While I am always excited to get home, there is also a sense of anxiety that looms. I just know someone is gonna have something OFF to say. I consider myself to be confident, strong and fairly cool. ;) However, I lose my cool when folk give their negative opinions about my appearance. One aunt said, "Hey baldy!" A family acquaintance said, "Hey fatty!" and yet another person said, "I thought that you were losing weight. You look like you've gotten bigger!"
WHAT IS THAT?!?!?? When I try my best to not reply with expletives, I end up tongue tied. I've got to say something! Not rude... But witty. No expletives. .............Well, maybe a few. ;)

If others opinions don't matter, why am I so irritated by the negative and uplifted by the positive? Why do I replay the comments in my mind? Why am I blogging about it?! Well, as much as I'd like to believe that I don't care what people say, I do. Im practicing ignoring the comments and it's hard! Maybe I should employ a filter that sifts out the unwanted comments and preserves the more desirable ones. Naaaaah. That would be bunk. (tell you about that word in a later blog) Like iced tea with no sugar. I guess I just need to take the good with the bad. Compliments and insults. Hmmmmm. Develop some tough skin and keep it movin'. Right?


  1. Some people think it's their duty to tell others their opinion because in their minds they feels as though it's truth and golden. While others think that they are doing you a favor by giving you motivation to do what they think you should. They should also know just because we have freedom of speech doesn't mean they should say whatever they want to who ever they want. People are at a point now when they see joy, it's their duty to damage it. If God beautifully and wonderfully made you and you love it, why would people take from that? I know why because the enemy doesn't have new tricks just old ones with new tools to use!!! You keep putting those things under your feet. Remember people will air at your table and envy tour happiness.

  2. *** people will eat at your table and envy your happiness.

  3. Maybe God uses people to get us to a place. ...that space ONLY once we've gained the proper perspective {"taking the good w/ the bad"} about that person, place or thing...THEN we reach a certain level of peace. ...I believe gaining the proper perspective GUARDS OUR ♥'s from the crazy issues of life....when we learn better {i.e. gaining prop. perspective} we feel + respond better to that thing that once irritated us...once that happens growth has occurred. ...then it's on to the next ...keep on growing Sunshine!!!!!!!!!


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